We want to have our cake and eat it
We both came from opposite family backgrounds.
Husband: His Mum didn't work most of his life, since his brother was born she developed problems so claimed DLA for most of the time. Though she could of happily brought in a wage at a supermarket (she had no problem sitting for hours on end, nattering to people). She kept that DLA for herself while her husband was out working a 13 day fortnight, having to pay all the bills, giving her housekeeping money and still buying his own shopping
To this day I don't understand why they never did a family shop...So even though they had their Mum at home all day, they were on a very tight budget.
Me: Both parents worked full-time. My typical school morning was going into Mum's work (bowling alley), helping her open up, walking round to my Aunt's who would then take us to school. Most weekends were spent either at my Aunt's, Grandad's or Mum's work. When my Mum moved away for work that changed to many nights staying in the hotel my Dad worked in.
I don't want to be my Mum in the fact I can't pick my son up from work, have to rely on other's to look after him which we would have to pay for and get no help other than the voucher scheme but I don't want us to struggle like the husband's family did.